“I don’t want to have an abortion!” “David” stated as he paced the client room after viewing his girlfriend’s ultrasound. After a deep sigh, he continued emphatically, “I don’t want to have a kid!”
Two separate statements, both complete in their decisiveness. In there lies the problem. Two conflicting sentiments, neither of which appears as a viable option to our clients in the present moment of a crisis. Yet this is the situation that they are faced with in the realization that life has already begun. This is what David was confronted with internally when he laid eyes on his child for the first time. David was candid during our conversation. He shared that he had “flip-flopped” about their decision every day of the previous week. He explained that they were not ready to have a child—they were finishing college, they were not financially stable, and they were too young. He was afraid that having a child now would “crush” their dreams of pursuing careers. But he conveyed he had a “moral conflict” with abortion and was aware of the possible negative impact on their relationship and was afraid that choosing abortion would leave a “void” in his life that he would always regret.
Very few of our clients can communicate the internal conflict the way that David was able to when we met, but most of our clients are confronted with this very dilemma. They have found themselves in a situation in which they did not want to be. Facing a decision that they do not want to make—a decision that will have a forever impact. Which one wins out? In most cases it is the sentiment that receives the most support. Whether that support is internal or external. As client advocates, we have the privilege of helping clients identify the supports they already have and revealing to them the supports available that they were unaware of previously. In David’s case, the ultrasound that he witnessed, combined with the information and encouragement that he received from Assurance, helped affirm his commitment to life. “We pretty much knew we were going to continue the pregnancy once we left the office,” was his response to a follow-up call that was made a few days later. Equipped with a little more information and courage, they approached their parents with the news of the pregnancy. The reaction was not nearly as harsh as they had anticipated. They also received a positive response from their academic advisers.
Most of our clients don’t want to have an abortion. And many of our clients are unaware of the support that they truly have. Thank God that he leads them to Assurance, and we can lead them back to his truth.